Grief is your natural emotional response to loss. Traumatic loss is integrated through the grief process.  Grief, when unresolved, is a form of Post-Traumatic Stress and when your loss is severe or traumatic, it is common for your grief process to become "stalled."  

 

Stalled vs. Flowing Grief.  Grief is a process, not a single emotion.  

Grief will involve cycling through many emotions, including sadness, anger, numbness, guilt, and more. 

As long as the process keeps moving, and you don't get stuck in any one stage for too long, then you are emotionally healthy and you will eventually get through it (even if it is painful, as it undoubtedly will be).

If you find yourself stuck, you may need to drill down and see where you are stuck.  Are you stuck in tears, can't stop crying, spiralling towards depression?

Are you stuck in anger, blame, rage, unforgiveness? 

Are you angry at yourself, plagued with guilt and doubt about your role in the matter? 

Are you numb and can't seem to feel anything?

If this is the case for you, then the new science of Memory can show you how to get moving and heading upwards again. 

When you are stuck in grief, you have not been able to "make sense" of your loss, you have not been able to wrap your head (and heart) around your loss, and you lose the ability to "move forward" in your life. 

The technique I use literally re-wires your brain away from stuck and painful thoughts, feelings, memories, and bodily sensations, and into hopeful, positive directions for you to pour your creative energy into. 

When applied to grief, this allows you to "move on" in a way that honours both yourself and the person (or situation) that you have lost.  

This does not erase the memory of your beloved - on the contrary, it re-wires the memory in a way that brings deep connection to them while providing a way forward into life, instead of being stuck in the past.