Coping with Grief and Loss
Grieving is a highly individual experience, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve.
How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith and how significant the loss was to you.
Grief is a natural response to loss. It's the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Often the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to disbelief, guilt and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your physical health making it difficult to sleep, eat or even think straight. These are normal reactions to loss - and the more significant the loss, the more intense the grief usually is.
I was angry when my dad died. Not angry because he'd passed, but angry at people telling me how I should be feeling and telling where I should be on the 7 stages of grieving. I was angry again when my nephew died in his twenties in a road traffic accident for the same reasons. I was less angry when my husband died but my intense grief was indescribable.
Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life's biggest challenges. Many associate grieving only with death but any loss can cause grief including: a miscarriage, divorce or relationship breakup, retirement, the passing of a pet or the selling of the family home.
The Grieving Process
The grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can’t be forced or hurried. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.
As an aromatherapist for the past 30 years the power of aroma has helped me enormously through my losses. Aromas can gently shift awareness away from negative thoughts, feelings and memories and initiate a positive outlook and attitude.
It is so easy to get caught up in negative thought patterns that sometimes it seems impossible to see the clear path of positivity that is sometimes shining bright - right in front of us.
My Gift to You!
I would like to invite you to a complementary 10-minute emotional release Zoom session with me. If you are in the UK I will send you a sample bottle of a special blend of essential oils – called the Memory Release Blend – and take you through a very simple process, that you can then do for yourself whenever you feel like it. The process works well without the oils, so don't worry if you don't have them, we can improvise!
If this is something that resonates with you, then please join my Private Facebook group
FAB - Freedom after Bereavement page where information of the sessions will be posted.
With light and love